dont just say “hey”
if you dm me with only hey, i have to guess what you want.
be clear: send your question and a little context in the first message. ♡
the slow dm
bad
2025-11-28 18:01 you: hey
2025-11-28 18:03 you: bro
2025-11-28 18:06 you: u busy
2025-11-28 18:10 me: nah
2025-11-28 18:13 you: can u help me understand this maths question
2025-11-28 18:15 you: *photo of homework*
6 messages just to say “i need help with maths”. i could answer faster if i knew the topic from the start.
the clear dm
better
2025-11-28 18:01 you: hey bro can u help me with one maths question?
it’s about percentages, homework due tomorrow. photo below.
one message with topic + urgency + what you need. respectful, and easy to answer.
why this is better
- faster answers – they see the problem right away.
- less awkward – no lonely “hey” just sitting there.
- more kind – you respect their time and energy.
easy dm template
you can use this for almost anything:
hey [name] ♡ can you help me with [what you need]?
it’s about: short description
deadline: when you need it (or “no rush”)
extra: link / screenshot / file if needed
rule is simple: say what you want, add basic details, all in one message.